My husband and I found a website a few months ago called The Art of Manliness, AoM, Reviving the lost art of manliness. They have articles such as:
Blacksmithing Basics - How to make a hook
A Resolution Romance - The 52 Lovenotes Challenge
Willpower Part 1: The Force of Greatness
How to shave like your Grandpa
Bringing Back the Hat
And those are just a few. I have utterly enjoyed reading this site and it would be an understatement to say that my husband merely "enjoys" it too. It's a site where men can revel in some "traditional" erstwhile manly pursuits. Do you think this is sexist on their part?
The reason I ask this is because my husband and I were talking about this and I mentioned that a woman could probably NEVER get away with an Art of Womanliness website. She'd be accused of setting women's rights back a hundred or more years! Sometimes, as women, we're uber sensitive to anything that pigeonholes us into what we view as archaic gender roles.
But are we cheating ourselves? What would we consider "reveling" in being a woman? Is it any more wrong or misguided for a woman to want to learn the basics of setting a table than it is for a man to want to learn how to shovel snow? Does it make him sexist because he WANTS to do those things for the people he loves? Are we trying too hard to be androgynous when it comes to gender roles? Or perhaps that's the issue, these pursuits aren't "roles" because a role is something placed upon you. Maybe WANTING to excel, or at least master, traditional feminine pursuits is just embracing the difference between the two sexes.
Because I want to know the correct way to iron, or take up knitting, or take pleasure in decorating my home doesn't mean that I think that it wouldn't be helpful for my own sons to know these things. It just means that I'm looking for that place where I truly revel in being, not just a woman, but a lady.
AoM. In a world where women are shrinking to almost invisibility to fit into an industry's standard, it would be a JOY to escape to a place where my swelling hips are lauded, not laughed at. Where Mother Theresa is a more vital life coach than Kris Jenner (Kardashian). And especially where, as we age, we have a greater voice not a weaker one.
You'll be seeing my blog take a turn toward The Art of Being a Lady. For me, that includes everything from the domestic arts to wise financial investments. And Sisters, I absolutely WELCOME your input! I'm not just being polite. I SERIOUSLY want your input. I'm going through my head thinking of blogger friends who are truly gifted in various areas. Right off the top of my head, I'm thinking of Patti with her specialty in counseling, and tenderness she brings to blogging. Terri, a voracious reader (and educator) who can help me put together a female focused personal library. Shey, a brilliant seamstress who takes the simplest items and makes the FABULOUS! Paula, an artistic soul who has so much to say on bringing color to our lives. Pam, a prolific writer and interviewer who has a passion for revitalizing women who may have lost their life's zest. Vanessa, another amazing writer who proves daily that gorgeousness isn't pigeonholed into one size; and curves deserve color too! Jessica, who is decorating her home BEAUTIFULLY on a meager budget through (what she has turned into) the "science" of thrifting! And I could seriously go on and on. So many of you are so incredibly inspirational that I can't possibly narrow it down to a finite blog post!
Oh my gosh! My mind is racing and my heart is pounding!!! That means I'm on the right track and hitting on something that impassions me! I'm still going to be doing outfits because, frankly, I think more "thrifty" outfits would provide balance to the plethora of high dollar outfit posts saturating fashion blogging. But this direction is something that I've toyed with for a while and I'm taking the plunge!
What does "lady like" mean to you?