|Dress: Vintage Thrifted, Belts: Thrifted, Wedge Sandals: Nine West Thrifted. Pin: Thrifted|
The responses that I got over "No Comment! (?)" was wonderful and so well spoken....well typed actually! It seems as if, even though we all slap on our Blogging "game faces"; there is definitely some frustration out there (myself included) and a coming to a point where bloggers are rethinking how we blog and whose rules we follow.
With the mind boggling numbers of new fashion blogs, it's just hardly even possible to give to everyone the attention that we've believed that we're supposed to give. Reva, of Reva's Rags to Roses, expressed what I imagine to be a univeral thought when she commented, "I liked the no comment, no pressure part of SU's blog because it does take the pressure out of commenting when you really don't have stuff to say, and if you don't comment for a little while, your own comments go away. Comments always make my day!". Oh man! I'm there! When I find myself rushed for time and I don't get to comment as much, my comment numbers go down the tank!
So are comments basically tit for tat? If that's the case. Do they really mean anything? Like Anne of Wobi Sobi commented, "I want them there because they feel inspired or they like what I do, not because they feel like they have to." I'm feelin' you Anne! Don't we all want genuine commenters? I'd much rather sacrifice the number of comments for commenters who genuinely have something to say to me; not that feel like it's proper ettiquete. Don't get me wrong. I ADORE comments and am so thankful for them. I truly just don't want anyone to feel obligated. I think Leia of Leia's Delights said it best when she talked about the thoughts that go through her head, " 'She comments on my blog all the time and I feel obliged to comment back but... I can't relate to her and don't really like her outfits!' It's hard. I want to be sincere in my commenting, but obviously don't want to say anything negative!" As for me, I'd rather not post a comment at all than to say something negative.
So what DO you do when you're commenting just to be nice? How many blogs can you really follow and have something pertinent to say to all of them. To be honest, no one I know does this better than Terri, of Rags Against the Machine. I mean to tell you, I will stumble upon a blog in the far nether regions of the internet. I mean, I'm thinking I'm the Marco Polo of blog surfing. I'll go to comment on some obscure blog only to fine that Terri's made a comment about 12 comments ahead of mine! I don't know how she does it, but she ALWAYS is so genuine! Not an easy thing to do when you're commenting alot.
I think a sweet newcomer to my blog, Gracey, Fashion for Giants (check out her blog....it's FABULOUS!) said it so nicely. "As for comments. I'm just never sure how to handle them. For awhile I tried to respond to everyone who commented on my blog. But, I wonder if it would be better if I just commented on their blogs. Either way I support comments because I know that new comments make me very happy and I hope they make other bloggers happy as well." One of the nicest things about comments is that it lets us know that someone really is out there looking at our blog. That all our hard work is not in vain. And to close, I think Bella, of Citizen Rosebud, gives us all some wonderful nuggets of wisdom. She summed it up nicely when she said, "I am a bleeding heart so my blogroll is now swollen and distended with a blogroll impossible to read. Sigh. I think we both need to take a deep breath, and do whatever we choose to do with joy, and not an ounce of obligation or guilt."
I couldn't agree more, Bella! Let's all take the pressure off of ourselves AND each other. This may make my comment numbers drop, but I'm sincere when I say this. Please don't ever feel pressure to comment on my blog. Even if I've commented on yours....it's really okay. Or if you just want to use comments to just say, "HI Serene!!", that would be great too! Let's face it, you're not always going to like what I put together. I just want you to like ME!!!!! ( Sly wink, huge grin and hugs all around!)
Oh yeah! Isn't this dress WONDERFUL!?!?!
Monday, April 25, 2011
~I comment on your comments.....
Posted by Serene McEntyre at 3:06 PM